THE FIVE EMOTIONAL LOVE LANGUAGES

THE FIVE EMOTIONAL LOVE LANGUAGES,

Which of the five are you? Take a test:

Site 1:

http://www.afo.net/hftw-lovetest.asp

Site 2:

http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/30sec.html

My results were:

1. Physical Touch [read below for definition]

2. Quality Time [read below for definition]

The most important one to me is Physical Touch, as since a long time ago I've been feeling insecure. Through learning how to counsel others, I've found out about myself at the same time. To be able to help others, I should at least be able to help myself first.

DEFINITIONS for THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES:

Chapman's Five Emotional Love Languages (Source: http://marriage.about.com/cs/communicationkeys/a/lovelanguage.htm ):

• Words of Affirmation
  This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted. These words will also build your mate's self image and confidence.
• Quality Time
  Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.
• Gifts
  It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved.
• Acts of Service
  Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.
• Physical Touch
  Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.

Been meaning to post this post since way before the exams 2 months ago.. I feel it's important for people to know about this.. We live for the sake of ourselves. Stress kills us. If we can't even feel at home with our spouses, how else would we be able to de-stress or try to enjoy what little pleasures life / GOD can offer?

Take the test. It's good to know which love language you belong to. In the end your benefiting yourself and your spouse, if you know each other's love languages, your relationship can and should be more stable. To get a better idea of the concepts, I recommend you watch the movie : 爱情万岁 also known as LOVE MATTERS.

Thats all for now.. Sorry for such long absence in updates. Been busy and have 0 inspiration to write at present.